5 Ways To Make Your Ceremony Radically Unique & Packed With Wonder

I talk a big game about being snappily dressed up there at the "alter" with you. But if push comes to shove, I reckon my true special talent is co-creating wedding ceremonies that are utterly one of a kind. Every word is intentional, delivered with profound care and a rare, deep knowledge of you. I'm voted London & SE England’s best celebrant for a reason, eh?

So here are five ways we can make your wedding ceremony dizzyingly special, packed with wonder and astonishingly unforgettable together...

1. Private Interviews, Not a Joint Questionnaire

When we work together, you won’t complete a questionnaire as a couple. Instead, I’ll interview you, privately and separately. I learn about you as an individual and discover things you may never have told your partner - like moments of quiet but immense love or a freaky habit you adore. This means your ceremony is crammed with surprise and delight. You'll learn things about each other - and yourself - that you've never known before.

Our chat is a life- and love-affirming hour; couples often say it’s their favourite part of the entire wedding planning process. Even better than cake tasting, can you believe?

2. Personal Introductions, Not Just Your Couple Story

Why do we only look back at someone’s life when they’re dead? F*ck that. In one of my ceremonies, you’ll each get your own introduction, packed with childhood memories, reflections on the person you’ve grown into, and contributions from loved ones. Weddings should honour the individual as well as the couple - and your guests get a new, meaningful insight into who you truly are.

I regularly hear that these introductions connect newlyweds to their guests more profoundly than before - you're seen in all your greatest authenticity, just as you should be.

3. Crowd-Sourcing Love From the Whole Room

Alongside your own memories and reflections, I’ll gather the same from people you hold dearest. Privately, I'll get in touch with the people whose voices and perspectives you want woven into your ceremony - and I'll have a marvellous time hearing their favourite things about you and your relationship. On the day, it fills the room with tenderness and connection - oh, and hearty honks of laughter.

We really don’t tell each other all the ways we’ve been inspired or moved by our loved ones often enough, do we? Time to change that!

4. Letting Others Lead Your Ceremony

Maybe you’ve got special people who could contribute something more substantial to your ceremony. I don’t just mean a traditional reading - I mean writing a section of the ceremony, or an original piece of prose or poetry. Don't panic - I'll always oversee their writing and have editorial control! I've got you, babe.

For example: with support from me, Henry and Pippa had their sisters write and deliver their personal introductions. They crushed it, ridiculously hard, and it bonded them closer than ever (after I'd edited out all the hideously embarrassing bits, of course).

5. Writing Your Own Vows, Not Generic Ones

My couples always write their own vows to each other, with my guidance and advice. I'm never going to put promises into your mouth, so if you don't fancy doing this we might not be a great match!

I start you off with expert guidance and I can give as much or as little support as you like (leaving you to it, or jumping on the phone to draft together). I'll see both sets of vows in advance and offer you feedback to bring them into alignment. That way, you can be assured they’re perfectly pitched on the day - there's no last-minute panic that one of you has gone hard on the humour and the other is full-blown mush!

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Profoundly special, wildly romantic, dazzlingly original ceremonies should be accessible to everyone: that's why I want to work with any lovers who are excited to be seen and known deeply and authentically by their loved ones - and themselves. For ceremonies rich in belly-laughs, gasps and dewy eyes, don't hesitate to get in touch. But don't just take my word for it - check out my testimonials page to hear what newlyweds are saying about my ceremonies.